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A TALE FROM HAPPYLAND

The responsibility of the Royalty of Happyland is to look after the people and help them to behave themselves.

Comp Lainer had problems with others and was supposed to be protected by those who worked for the Royalty. Comp Lainer was sometimes looked after well and more often not.

A Happyland worker had money and information which actually belonged to Comp Lainer but would not hand them over. Comp Lainer tried to be reasonable and patient but, after many months, grew tired of waiting and told the Queen of Happyland this.

Unfortunately, the Crown Prince of Happyland became angry and threatened to kill Comp Lainer. The Crown Prince was made an ex Crown Prince. He was not happy because he had to leave Happyland where he had had money to spend and an easy life.

After a time the Queen also grew unhappy with Comp Lainer and let bad people loose hoping they would kill Comp Lainer. She still refused to give the money and information to Comp Lainer and said Comp Lainer would have to wait for it until she said it could be handed over. Bear in mind that this did not belong to the Queen. Hirer and Firer heard about this and was cross so the Queen was banished. (The selection process for the Sovereign had possibly not been the best and the person crowned in that post might not have been the most competent or suitable. The management structure was also not entirely effective. Matters which should have been completed within a reasonable time were left because there were not experienced, competent people who should have picked up the failings.)

A new Crown Prince called Candidate took the Queen’s place and copied what the Queen had said about not letting Comp Lainer have the money which was rightfully hers. Hirer and Firer was cross about this and told Candidate he would not be made King of Happyland if he had an arrogant attitude. Candidate said he would send the money and information without delay. (Privately, he told his brother Princes that he would make Comp Lainer wait.) Oh dear, this is an example of an appointment of an inexperienced person with no prior knowledge of the work of Happyland who simply replicates what they have learnt from an incompetent former ruler. (However, Candidate had dealt with a situation concerning one of his workers in a way which was empathetic when he first became temporary ruler of Happyland and this had shown some initial promise.)

Life sometimes teaches us the lessons we need to learn in order to become the person we are meant to be. The lesson here is that arrogance does not have a place in Happyland or any other land.

I think Happyland needs a King or Queen who is intelligent, fair, abides by the Happyland rules and does not make Royalty matters personal. Alternatively, Happyland could become part of a larger land which is run more effectively. This amalgamation would be a cheaper option than having two separate lands each with their own management structure. What do you think? . . .

Comp Lainer has never wanted to put the incomes of the workers in jeopardy, but she has been waiting for months and months for money and information which is hers and all her requests for it have been ignored. She feels there is no other way to get what she needs to move on with her life. This is her great regret. She has said more than once that she does not want to take action which may affect workers’ jobs and there is documentation to support this.

She has also asked many times for information about where she is to receive a life-saving operation. She is still waiting for that information. Unfortunately, people’s patience eventually runs out.

FAMILY VALUES

Family values are said to be those learned within a traditional family unit, examples include: honesty, caring, humour, learning, wisdom, leadership, and compassion. Maybe some of these values are not shared by certain of my family members!

Recently, my belief was confirmed that another family member has been involved with the abuse (some of it online) and attempts at serious harm I have experienced for over six years. This woman is married to a relative.

Although I have not seen her often, after my sister died and just before the real abuse started, this woman would deliberately try to get me talking about my relative. If I did not rise to the bait the first time, she would raise the subject again during a visit to try to get me to talk about her. Also at this time my relative briefly mentioned that this woman was useful as she could find out what was being said.

These factors made me suspect who could be behind all the abuse from my relative who I have always found to be very impressionable. I believed that someone had to be encouraging her obsessive behaviour.

The person who has been encouraging or, to use the legal term, inciting, this behaviour already has a previous criminal conviction for theft for which she received a suspended prison sentence. It therefore seems rather surprising to me that she has followed this latest course of action as she appears to believe that:

1) her involvement would never be discovered,

2) so there would be no danger of her having to appear in court,

3) if she was taken to court, the business she is involved in would not be affected in any way.

When the theft of several thousand pounds by this person was discovered, she found herself to be suffering from a psychiatric illness. This continued for a few months after the court case and then she made a very good recovery. There has been no mention of a recurrence of this illness since then. I hope she stays well over the next few weeks or months.

She has always given me the impression that she believes she is more intelligent than the family she married into, and she could be right. However, I cannot see the logic of a person spending years building up a transport business with her husband and then acting in a way which threatens its destruction for no good reason. At best, this appears to be shortsighted because she would know that my relative has tried to cause me very serious harm on several occasions, and to incite such behaviour is a criminal offence.

It also shows a surprising lack of care and consideration for her husband and the son involved in the transport business. What will they do if the enterprise fails now?

It also makes me wonder about her appearing to be friendly with my relative, and then encouraging her in a course of action which could lead to her committal to prison. Is this what you do to your friends? Also, my relative is now, like this woman, unemployable because of her actions. Might the woman not have been a better friend if she had tried to protect my relative from this type of behaviour?

I have always suspected that this woman likes to manipulate people if she can. I have tried to think about what the benefit could be to her in using my relative in this way. The woman has always seemed to like my relative and want to be her friend, so is the benefit the satisfaction of knowing she can influence the behaviour of someone she seems to admire? Or is it that she gets a thrill from manipulating the situation in secret?

I believe that my relative deleted all this woman’s social media messages as soon as she received them to avoid discovery, so it seems astonishing that she cannot see that she has been willing to take the blame for her own actions and has covered up for the person who encouraged her.

We have all on plenty of occasions said or done something and then thought afterwards that it would have been far better to have avoided that mistake. However, not many of us have spent a number of years continually behaving in such a damaging way with apparently little thought for the consequences.

Out of respect for other relatives and their spouses who live in the region I have had to relocate to, I have waited to see if any attempt is made to work towards resolving this situation. I am not aware that anything has been done, so feel court action is needed as if this woman is found to have a psychiatric condition then she would benefit from a treatment order.

COMMENT

It seems to me that any organisation is only as good as its managers.  The organisation may have the best possible “front line” employees but will still be affected if it does not have efficient, effective and ethical local managers.

Firstly, one of the quickest ways to harm a business is for its owners or managers to involve themselves in any sort of nastiness towards others. Some clients and business partners tend not to like this type of behaviour and the damage caused to a commercial enterprise can be very difficult to overcome. I know of at least two small businesses which failed for this reason.

A person who has made several attempts at causing me very serious harm was driven past my house recently so now knows exactly where I live. I believe that prior to this she had been heard openly stating that she (still) wants to cause me very serious harm. I have seen the two people who were with her that day outside my house previously and believe they have so far received at least two visits from the authorities.

I moved over 160 miles to get away from a dangerous, very nasty set of circumstances, only for it to be brought to my door. It is likely that further attempts to cause me serious harm could be made by the person this couple were with. They have also repeated what she has been saying about me. Additionally, even though they know that she said she wanted to cause me very serious harm, they were still willing to show her where I live. I believe this means that they would have to bear part of the responsibility for any harm which may be caused to me.

There is also the risk of legal action for harassment and defamation which could of course lead to bad publicity.

Let’s hope that this couple’s wish to involve themselves in a situation relating to someone they do not know without first checking the facts does not put at risk the jobs of decent people who simply want to earn a living. 

Secondly, I have written on several occasions about some “anomalies” in public services in my former home town.

Recently, I was very disappointed to learn that one public service denies any involvement in my situation. I can think of instances where I know for sure that this organisation was involved.

The most likely reason I can think of for this denial is that one or more local managers were playing for time. If matters proceeded along the usual channels there would inevitably have been a time delay. This would give them the opportunity to find other jobs before any decision is made to rationalise services. (There were some “shortcuts” in the conduct of my situation.) 

If I am right, I do hope that the people concerned are taking as much care in protecting the positions of front line employees as their own.

Unfortunately, these are two sets of circumstances where the actions of just a few people could create the risk of long term consequences for a number of others.

SEARCHING . . .

Firstly, I understand that I have been searched for again on social media. The post I am thinking of is worded in a way that shows the person still wants to think they can upset me. This person has had several attempts at causing me very serious harm.

Their hate campaign has lasted for some years now and I do not believe it is justified. I also suspect that it will not stop unless some action is taken. I feel that a major cause of this could be what happened to them as a child. I was in no way responsible for this: indeed, I put a stop to it. It could be that justice needs to be served on this matter as this may help this unfortunate person’s emotional state and enable them to move on with their life. I will give this serious consideration.

This is not the first time someone has searched for me since I relocated and this demonstrates to me that the courts need to deal with the situation without further delay.

It also suggests to me that the law on abuse via social media needs to be clarified and strengthened.

Secondly, I understand that some of the people who may be due to appear at the court case are planning to plead Not Guilty so that what they said about me on social media is repeated in court. They apparently want to do this to “have some fun” and presumably to cause me humiliation and embarrassment that day. As I have had several years of threats, abuse, harassment and attempts to cause me humiliation, both on social media and face-to-face, I am possibly more used to this than most. The main effect could therefore be to make the outcome more serious for those people, but I am sure they are aware of that.

It may be that the person presiding in court should be aware of this plan so I will take advice on this.

Lastly, for some time I have been aware of the help I receive from others behind the scenes. I am very grateful for this. I have felt throughout this nasty situation that there are decent people in this world and the help I receive confirms this for me.